Making a decision

Seven months ago, I helped my daughter made a decision. The question then was : to take her BM paper in SK ( harder but lower passing mark ) or SJK (easier but higher passing mark). In the first place, her school teaches BM in SK format and she has been studying it for 6 years. Earlier this year, the teacher asked them to decide which to take during the exams. Although she was ask to choose, the teacher had actually told them to take the SJK paper.

So when I heard the news, I went round asking a few people. One was her tuition teacher ( also a teacher in the same school) and her question to me was, are u really "keen" for your daughter to get an "A" for her paper? Issit really important to you?. At that point, I told her "Nope, I just want her to give her best for what she has studied in the past 6 years." She answered me " If so, u can encourage her to take the SK paper. If you are determined for her to get an A, then SJK would be the most secured way as it's standard is lower by SK by one year. Means the test would be what was taught to her for the last five years excluding the current year."Upon hearing that, I told my girl " Take the SK paper. Give it your best shot. This will gauge what are your learning standards. "

NOW, today, she told me " Mom, the teachers have compared the answers and I only got 22 correct answers out of 40, which means my marks would be around 55. I would probably get a C. If I took the SJK paper, I would have gotten an A" Then she cried.  At that moment, I asked myself, " Did I make the wrong decision for her? Would it have been different if she took SJK?"

I had to admit I was just as disappointed as she was, BUT I also told myself this was she studied and this is the level she is at. She is taking this test to gauge what she learned and not just for the purpose of getting an A. If she gets an A, it means she learned well. If not, then it shows she is weak in that subject. So, as a mom, I should encourage her to learn more and make extra effort to work harder on that subject.

There are times in our lives that we have to make certain decisions. Big or small, these decisions are the crossroads where our lives changes, depending on the decisions we have made.The decisions made not only affects but also the others around us.  There are also times when we have to decide for others. Making a decision can be easy or hard but regretting on what that was decided is definitely hard for us. Make decisions well and if it's wrong, don't dwell on the past. Look forward and make up for it and not to decide wrongly for the second time.Some decisions doesn't give us a second chance, so DECIDE WISELY !!!!