Bad Mood.....

Last two days, I was in a very bad mood.

I happened one day that I was told that I was expected to spend more time doing another's work and that I am not being helpful at all. All these has to come from a third party and It was as if I was being portrayed as a lazy person who doesn't help others. So I asked, "What do you expect from me? Other than my current work, I am also to do another person's work and  not even any free time for myself while the person concerned can rest.. FINE! . I'll do it. I 'll take over 50% of her work so she can be happier".

If you think this was what that makes me angry, then you are mistaken. It is not the extra work, it is the attitude of the person concerned  ( I shall name her A  &  the person telling me this ( name him B ). First of all,  A had never told me that she needed help and she couldn't cope with the work. She only had to ask and help will be there from me. But, no no..... she had to grumble behind my back  to B and  this makes me look like a INCONSIDERATE person. Whenever I ask A if she needs any help, she will decline it and she likes to do things the "long " way, which is why she takes a long time to finish. This B then comes to me and tells me that I am such a  person and I should help her out. That was the thing that is making me angry. After all the years of working together, she didn't even have the courtesy to  tell me personally. It really feels like being BACK-STABBED. Uuurrgggghhhhhhh.......

On the other hand, B says he will also help but as far as I can see, he is not much of a help at all. Sometimes I wish I can just move somewhere else and do things my own style. The steam accumulated so much that tears comes to my eyes. Thankfully, my best friend helped me release some of it and now I'm feeling better. Thanks to you, O !

A story to remind myself !

I came upon this short story from this linkhttp://www.indianchild.com/wooden_bowl.htm that is full of motivational stories, quotes, words and many more. The reason it captures me is that it is a different version with the same message from what I hear. Read on and see :-


A frail old man went to live with his son, daughter-in-law, and a four-year old grandson. The old man's hands trembled, his eyesight was blurred, and his step faltered. The family ate together nightly at the dinner table. But the elderly grandfather's shaky hands and failing sight made eating rather difficult. Peas rolled off his spoon onto the floor. When he grasped the glass often milk spilled on the tablecloth. The son and daughter-in-law became irritated with the mess. "We must do something about grandfather," said the son. I've had enough of his spilled milk, noisy eating, and food on the floor. So the husband and wife set a small table in the corner. There, grandfather ate alone while the rest of the family enjoyed dinner at the dinner table. Since grandfather had broken a dish or two, his food was served in a wooden bowl. Sometimes when the family glanced in grandfather's direction, he had a tear in his eye as he ate alone. Still, the only words the couple had for him were sharp admonitions when he dropped a fork or spilled food. The four-year-old watched it all in silence.
One evening before supper, the father noticed his son playing with wood scraps on the floor. He asked the child sweetly, "What are you making?" Just as sweetly, the boy responded, "Oh, I am making a little bowl for you and mama to eat your food from when I grow up." The four-year-old smiled and went back to work. The words so struck the parents that they were speechless. Then tears started to stream down their cheeks. Though no word was spoken, both knew what must be done. That evening the husband took grandfather's hand and gently led him back to the family table.
For the remainder of his days he ate every meal with the family. And for some reason, neither husband nor wife seemed to care any longer when a fork was dropped, milk spilled, or the tablecloth soiled. Children are remarkably perceptive. Their eyes ever observe, their ears ever listen, and their minds ever process the messages they absorb. If they see us patiently provide a happy home atmosphere for family members, they will imitate that attitude for the rest of their lives. The wise parent realizes that every day that building blocks are being laid for the child's future.
Let us all be wise builders and role models. Take care of yourself, ... and those you love, ... today, and everyday!

The version I heard was the father taking the grandfather away in a cart to the old folk's home and later found the son making another cart and telling the father that it will be used to take the father away in the future.

No matter how the story is told, it carries the same meaning. One word to say it all :- L O V E .......

Resignation

I have been working in the same office for twenty years. During these years, I have seen many new and old friends come and go. There are some that I wish they could stay on longer because they had brought a lot of happiness into the office. These are the people that colleagues will call them friends. They are the ones that others will miss.The positive energy and laughter they send out will always make an impact on other people's life wherever they go.
Today, one such person has decided to leave. She has brought a lot of laughter to us and smiles are always asround when she is there. So, I wish her the best in her career and hope that her happiness will continue to pass to those at her new workplace.

Balloons, balloons......

Today I saw a lot of balloons. Colourful and used to make many different shapes and sizes. Looking at the balloons that were tied to togther to look like trees, chickens, trees, flowers and others, balloons are definitely one of the things used for decoration in many kinds of event.

I tend to link balloon and stress. When you blow up a balloon, it is like stress increasing in our bodies. The more it is blown into, the bigger the balloon and when the balloon cannot take it anymore, BANG!!! . Imagine the stress as the air and the balloon as our mind, you will know that we should not over-stress ourselves.

Personally, I like to de-stress by going out with friends. Whether is Karaok-ing or just hanging around, I like to enjoy the company of my friends. Since meeting up with my old schoolmates through Facebook last year, we would try to meet up once around every month. Just a simple lunch or dinner date would means over two hours of chit-chatting and laughter. How I like it !

Another one is Karaok-ing. Just last night, I went singing with my friends and although I didn't get to sing my favourite songs (coz there were just too many avid singers there), it was just pure happy fun time with taking photographs, talking or rather shouting and  singing along.

Be it whatever way we choose to de-stress, it is important to know and find ways to release the stress or tension in our mind and body. Never let it accumulate or one day we might find it to be a bomb ready to explode anytime. So, be happy and stress is something you won't quite see.

I.O.U

Who likes to owe people money? Who likes their money to be owed? Haizz... Why do I sigh?

Some people cannot control their spendings. To them, using a credit card to buy things are not considered as spending money. ???? because it didn't decrease CASH in their pocket. Yet, they are still owing others and are always asking for extension from their borowers to repay later. In fact, if they could just reduce spending on things that are not of important necessities, they could just repay in a much shorter time.

They are also some who think that others won't mind the money being returned later.Not that they are unwilling or unable to repay, it is the "tidak apa " attitude in their attitude. You can remind them a few times in a day and yet, they can still dilly-dally in giving back the money, as if it is you who owe them and not the other way round.

Like the Chinese saying, one kind of rice can bring up hundreds kind of different people.........